Ahhhhh... The elusive sleep. Whenever I talk about sleep training, all my friends / family were saying the baby too young, if he cry too much he'll get gassy, you're doing harm for him, he just wants to cuddles.
But I'm pretty sure my baby is smarter than me.
He KNOWS that I'm not around, he can play happily.
But when I'm around him, he cry, and cry and cry, so that I hold and cuddle him.
He can't sleep without his rocker, as if he have problems with sleeping but he didn't actually.
I know he can sleep well without being cuddles and rock to sleep.
But my mom and my granma totally ruin him with all the cuddles and smoddles.
I don't mind during the day when he play happily.
But not during his nap time.
The method I chose:
Cry It Out (CIO)
Yeah I know all the attachment parenting parent will gasp in horror, but I do not left him to cry all night long.
Nor I just leave him shut in his dark room alone for a long time.
I periodically check him in 10 to 15 mins interval.
Well, whatever works for your family then :)
Day One.
So since this week I'm not going home, I decide to sleep train him.
I decided to have a bedtime routine for Keyaan.
It consists of:
Him playing until I saw him rubbing his eyes. That is the first sign he's sleepy.
Next, bath time. He don't really enjoy it, but it calms him down.
Next on to the changing mat, and I put on his diaper, and massage him a lil bit.
Next, last feeding. As soon as he start falling asleep, I'll take off the bottle, burp him, and put him in his crib.
Next, I'll read him two stories from his bedtime story book, and recite Al Fatihah and the 3 Quls.
Lastly, I kiss him and said good night and Assalamualaikum and close the door.
He'll be drowsy, yet as soon as I close the door, the crying will start.
And on and on and on.
Since we sleep trained before, I left him crying until 10 minutes.
Then I went in and check on him. Patting him, soothing him, and magically, he stop crying as soon as I enter the room, just sobbing.
Sorry mista, I have to let you down tonight.
So as soon as I went out, the crying starts again.
I'd check again after 15 minutes and he still sobbing.
Nearly another 15 minutes later, I nearly give up.
He haven't stop crying and I'm gonna bawl myself out too out there.
Before I gave in, the crying stop. I couldn't believe it.
So I waited another 5 minutes, then I check in.
Lo and behold, he was sleeping like he didn't scream his lungs out.
Even his Daddy can't stand it and went out.
Tsk Tsk...
He woke up at 3 for his night feeding and he just whimper a bit before he fall asleep.
He woke up again at 7 happily gurgling and cooing, so no hard feelings there.
Ask him to pose for granma, and he just make this face....
Day Two.
Okay, again the routine.
However during his playtime (and our mealtime) I took off all his clothes, only left the diaper.
He was playing around, lying down when suddenly he moves to his side, and a few minutes after that, he's fully lying on his tummy, except his hand was a bit stuck.
So, I unstuck his hand, and suddenly he was on his tummy, and he was happy.
I then went to prepare his bath, and when I came out, he was trying to crawl to me.
Stinking cute kid!
Well then next I did his routine, and this time....
*drum rolls*
He cry intermittently for 20 minutes.
20 minutes people!
That's half of day one!
I'm feeling positive.
And at 4am night feeding, he didn't scream, he just called us.
When I did warm the milk, and when I went in, he was just playing with his monkey.
After I feed and burp him, I put him down, put his monkey pillow pet on him, pat him, kiss and walk away.
He continued playing and slept off in just few minutes.
Nearly 5 minutes later when I checked in, he was sound asleep.
This morning, I woke him up at 6.45 and he was happily cooiing and smiling.
Made my day!
So yes, I'll update on it from day 3 to 5.
Hope for the best!
Keyaan in his fav rocker, playing with his daddy.
